"Roses Are Grey. Violets Are Grey. I'm A Dog" - Dog's Poetry
Poetry has always been a little too ambiguous. For me, a poem must be relatable in some way in order to understand it or more so, to analyze it. So finding one that I can relate to, and be long enough for a worthwhile analysis proved difficult when consulting the four poetry collections at my disposal. Flipping through milk and honey by Rupi Kaur, a well known yet possibly overused poetry collection, I stumbled upon "how we make up". What intrigued me about this poem was not only its style and length but that it was not relatable in the sense of the concrete ending point of this poem. This paved the pathway to the deep lengthy analysis I was so desperate to write.
I questioned choosing this poem for a school analysis because of its vulgar content but I felt that there was a stronger root than just that, there's more meaning and depth than just "make up sex". My AP Lit teacher talked about how poetry doesn't shy away from topics or contexts like this, and how we can choose not to indulge in analyzing or commenting on such poems if we didn't want to. So I decided I would like to explore it regardless, hoping to open up the less vulgar meaning of such a provocative poem.
New love is an adventure that is bound to end, eventually what most consider the "honeymoon stage" wears off. Couples will become more comfortable with each other, there are less romantic moments, occasions, and adventures and more mundane days the longer you're together. This causes tensions to build as you start to view your partner without the rose colored glasses, which could make or break the relationship depending on how you handle them. The first two stanzas of this poem talk about this while also setting up the context of the situation. The quote "we've been arguing more than we ought to. about things neither of us remember or care about cause that's how we avoid the bigger questions. instead of asking why we don't say i love you to another as often as we used to.", sets up this context, talking about the small things yet avoiding why it feels different than it used to, then leads to "and everything is on the table tonight" where the tensions break and turns to a full blown argument.
From the readers perspective the poem could go two ways, heartbreak or healing. As I mentioned, the tensions could make or break the relationship depending on how you handle it. The third stanza begins the shift towards healing in their situation. "i know. i know... i love you so much. i'm sorry i thought you were lying." But of course the tension isn't resolved (and -spoiler alert- isn't technically fully resolved by the ending of the poem, but I digress) which is addressed in the fourth stanza, and the climax (no pun intended) of the whole poem is reached at "but don't kid yourself. no matter how bad it gets we both know you still want to nail me to the ground"
It is at this point the poem caught my attention, but not in the vulgar sense. This line makes a point, it is meant to create surprise, clearly with the sudden sexual content. This is when it suddenly became relatable, because what it actually says, is "no matter what, we will get through every issue". We understood that the tension dissipated at "i love you so much", but it wasn't until "but don't kid yourself" that we see the whole situation change. While it is never really resolved, the anger melts away.
What I gather from the rest of the poem is that there is always something more important than the current argument, and always a way to fix it. The poem continues through their way of dismantling the problem, and exploring the passion of the honeymoon stage. "and the fire trucks come rolling in to save us but they can't distinguish whether these flames begin with our anger or our passion." Though the poem is specific about their solution, everyone will have their own unique approach.
Loving dogs and poetry. What else could I need?